Have you ever asked someone to meet for lunch and they say, “Oh, uh, yeah, whenever”
What does that actually mean?
Do they want to meet for lunch?
Do they care about meeting you for lunch?
Contrast that with asking someone to meet for lunch and they say, “Sure, what about Friday at noon?”
How did that response make you feel?
Did you feel more certain that they wanted to go to lunch with you?
I have more confidence in the lunch meeting actually taking place with the second response.
Why am I more confident?
Because the person gave me a day and a time.
They told me when they could meet me.
Timing is everything.
If you don’t put a time on something, you probably won’t do it.
“Let’s paint the room a different color” means nothing until you decide which weekend that’s going to happen.
“Let’s get out of debt” won’t happen unless you put a...
Let’s keep it REAL today!
We’ve been talking about being S.M.A.R.T. - this is part 4 of a 5-part series on setting S.M.A.R.T. goals and today we are going to look at being REALISTIC.
In my last blog, Attainable Stainable, I used the example of someone wanting to lose 100 pounds in 30 days.
Not only is this unattainable but it also not realistic.
I also showed the example of a person who has never run before and wants to participate in a 50-mile ultra-marathon next week.
Again, this not being realistic.
Setting an attainable and realistic goal often go together but they are a little different.
An attainable goal is a goal that is challenging yet not outrageous.
A realistic goal is a goal that someone thinks that they can actually achieve, is physically able to achieve it, AND is willing to do the work to achieve it.
When you stain wood, it is permanent. If you pick the right stain, what was once old looking becomes new and polished - something fresh and creative.
When you attain a goal, it becomes a stain - a permanent achievement that marks your progress. It increases your confidence so you can look back and say, “I did that!”
The first step towards attaining a goal is setting an attainable goal.
You can’t make up some extreme far-fetched goal because you won’t reach it and then your confidence plummets… or worse, you will feel like a failure.
No, do NOT do that to yourself.
Set attainable goals.
Here is an example of a far-fetched unattainable goal:
“I am going to lose 100 pounds in 30 days.”
Not going to happen. This would not be physically possible and would be down right dangerous.
An attainable goal would look like this:
“I am going to lose 100 pounds in 1 year”
This is attainable because the person would need to lose about 2...
When you make a recipe for the first time, do you measure every ingredient?
You do if you want the recipe to turn out like the picture in the cookbook!
When you shop online and aren’t sure what size to order, what do you do?
You go to the size chart and check the measurements so you can order an accurate size without the hassle of returning an item.
The might is in the measured.
To be S.M.A.R.T., you must measure when setting goals.
Let’s look at weight loss. When a woman wants to lose weight, I rarely hear them say, “I want to lose a little.”
No. Instead, they are very clear about losing 5 pounds, 20 pounds, or 100 pounds.
They put a number on it. They place a value on their goal so that they can measure their progress.
And, that’s exactly what measuring does.
It allows you to know precisely what to do.
If we stick with the weight loss theme:
A woman wants to lose 30 pounds. She is not sure how long it will take her but she would...
If I told you that your job this weekend is to clean your house, what is your immediate reaction?
Are you overwhelmed?
Are you thinking that “I can’t clean this entire house in 1 day!”?
What if I told you to just clean the kitchen.
Do you feel less pressure?
What if I told you to clean the refrigerator, the oven, and the counter tops?
Do you feel a bit of relief that you only have 3 things to clean now?
This is what it means to be SPECIFIC.
When you have a big goal like cleaning the house and you break it down into SPECIFIC tasks, the big goal becomes much more achievable.
It is overwhelming to think of the big goal. It can even seem insurmountable.
If we use our cleaning house example, let’s say you have a 3 bedroom - 2 bathroom house. You also have a kitchen, dining area, and living room. You have a laundry room. And you have a finished basement. That’s 10 areas to clean and each of those 10 areas has lots of stuff associated with it....
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